"The Will to Change"
The will to change is a key factor in healing your body and changing anything in your life. Yeah, you might think this is common sense, but it actually is not. Many people attempt coming in to my office to just passively lie on my table and wait until I make them feel better. Some do not even realize that they are their own worst enemies. Their minds say the same negative talk over and over again: “I will never get better,” “My pain has been here for so long that it will always be here,” etc. When will it stop? When they just experience a brief period of time where there was no pain and they had free movement. Yet when I tell them about what just happened, they immediately do a movement that even I would have trouble with, feel pain, and say “oh, there it is again!” Why do people do that? Well, the reason why so many people do that is because they can’t picture who they would be without that lovely pain. They can not imagine what life would be like without it.
The will to change is a key factor in healing your body and changing anything in your life. Yeah, you might think this is common sense, but it actually is not. Many people attempt coming in to my office to just passively lie on my table and wait until I make them feel better. Some do not even realize that they are their own worst enemies. Their minds say the same negative talk over and over again: “I will never get better,” “My pain has been here for so long that it will always be here,” etc. When will it stop? When they just experience a brief period of time where there was no pain and they had free movement. Yet when I tell them about what just happened, they immediately do a movement that even I would have trouble with, feel pain, and say “oh, there it is again!” Why do people do that? Well, the reason why so many people do that is because they can’t picture who they would be without that lovely pain. They can not imagine what life would be like without it.
On the other hand, I have had clients that don't even remember why they came in to see me in the first place. They forget because they want to change so much that they move on to the next issue without realizing that they cleared up the first one well before I did anything. It is so beautiful to watch people empower themselves to clean up their own issues; their smiles and they way they carry themselves is amazing. I can't get enough of it! That is why it is so important to teach people about the will to change—without it, they won't get to that smile I have seen, and that empowered feeling of self-healing.
So the question we must ask is this: “How do you help a person that does not realize that they are not on the right side of the will to change?” We have to ask this because everyone knows their own issues, but some hold on to them and complain about them, while others acknowledge them but still keep them, doing nothing about them. Well, there is no right answer, but I can tell you this: if you don't get the person to realize that they are not really dealing with the problem or that they are side-stepping the problem (this includes times when people just keep speaking about it in a negative manner under the guise of confronting the problem), then they will never get over it. As the person trying to improve, you must first acknowledge where you are with your issue, taking care to notice how that overloaded super-computer, as in, your brain, is "mind fucking you," as Puffy said in Get Him to the Greek—funny movie!
Now, all I get my clients to do is feel. Once you feel anything, your mind will turn off and now your body will process real sensations so much faster, thus giving you clearer commands and information without your rational mind creeping in. Monitoring your bodily sensations like this shows you that change can happen fast if you watch it; things are always changing in the body because it’s not black or white, or pain versus no pain. Once we get the person to this level of awareness, we can now slowly build their confidence by showing them their small victories, such as they went ten minutes without thinking about their issues. Before you know it, they are more in tune with their bodies, which then brings them to a bigger and better place of body awareness—which is a whole other can of worms. But remember, if you can not get them on the right side of WILL TO CHANGE, then it is hopeless for that individual. Good luck everyone, and live and move pain free!
So the question we must ask is this: “How do you help a person that does not realize that they are not on the right side of the will to change?” We have to ask this because everyone knows their own issues, but some hold on to them and complain about them, while others acknowledge them but still keep them, doing nothing about them. Well, there is no right answer, but I can tell you this: if you don't get the person to realize that they are not really dealing with the problem or that they are side-stepping the problem (this includes times when people just keep speaking about it in a negative manner under the guise of confronting the problem), then they will never get over it. As the person trying to improve, you must first acknowledge where you are with your issue, taking care to notice how that overloaded super-computer, as in, your brain, is "mind fucking you," as Puffy said in Get Him to the Greek—funny movie!
Now, all I get my clients to do is feel. Once you feel anything, your mind will turn off and now your body will process real sensations so much faster, thus giving you clearer commands and information without your rational mind creeping in. Monitoring your bodily sensations like this shows you that change can happen fast if you watch it; things are always changing in the body because it’s not black or white, or pain versus no pain. Once we get the person to this level of awareness, we can now slowly build their confidence by showing them their small victories, such as they went ten minutes without thinking about their issues. Before you know it, they are more in tune with their bodies, which then brings them to a bigger and better place of body awareness—which is a whole other can of worms. But remember, if you can not get them on the right side of WILL TO CHANGE, then it is hopeless for that individual. Good luck everyone, and live and move pain free!
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